War Of Two Natures

                            RED & BLUE

Red, the color associated with love, passion, sensuality, romance is also a symbol of vigor, rage, anger, malice, wrath, stress, action and determination, color red at the same point symbolizes blood and the fire, correlated directly to deaths and wars.

On the other hand, blue the color of sky and sea, often associated with depth and stability, it also symbolizes calmness, patience, wisdom, confidence, intelligence, truth and heaven.

Blue is considered to be beneficial to mind and body, whereas red is considered to be injurious to mind and body as it is a disgrace to humanity.

With that ideology in mind, I firmly believe that Red is Red, Blue is Blue and never the two shall meet because wrath and wisdom, rage and calmness, short temper and patience, hatred and love, enemity and friendship can never go hand in hand according to what I perceive or have seen during the past 19 years of my life.

It is often said that a person should keep control on his words in the state of anger because although words don’t have teeth, but when they bite the pain is miserable. Also the words once spoken, can never be taken back.

Always standing firm for the color blue, not because of being a big time Chelsea fan but due to the fact that I believe calmness and patience are the best tools to deal with any crisis. Time heals everything and using calmness followed by silence in a define way is a sure shot to solve any problem and none can stop you from achieving success in life.

Red, which symbolizes danger and stress, portraying a tensed personality, surely symbolizes pessimistic behavior whereas the color blue often associated with in-depth knowledge and stability symbolizes an optimistic person. Just like the two sides of a coin can never be viewed simultaneously and a person can never be introvert and extrovert at the same time. Similarly, a person can either be an optimist or a pessimist, hence red and blue can never go hand in hand.

At this point of time, someone might just come up with the ideal theory of color ‘Magenta’, which is composition of equal proportions of color red mixed with color blue. Magenta symbolizes harmony, unity and what not!!! but my dear readers that is just a fallacy and if you really want to get into reality, just think of a single instance where a wise decision has been taken under the influence of anger. What people, pondering over the slap that took place between Harbhajan and Shreeshant or the ever-going abuses of Virat Kohli.

Just take into consideration, over a number of ruthless acts taking place constantly in the capital of our nation, Delhi. How the number of criminal activities in Delhi led to the transition of DILLI DILWALO KI to DILLI KHOONWALO KI and still you try to say that red and blue can ever re-unite.

We often fail to realize the pain which an individual undergoes, when they witness us in the state of anger, how terrifying it can be for children, how harsh our words might feel to them, after which even the word ‘Sorry’, might not just make a big difference.

Definitely, being surrounded by engineers or coming out from engineering background few of you must be thinking of asking for a practical implementation of the above hypothesis. So my dear friends just take a melamine plate in your hand and break it off on floor, then just say 'SORRY'. Did it get back the way it was before? By this you must have realized that a wise person never takes a decision under the influence of anger and understands the importance of fragile thin thread that strengthens any bond, be it love or friendship.

RED is RED, BLUE is BLUE and never the two shall meet.

In the course of the post till this point, I have been comparing the feelings of anger, malice, wrath to patience, calmness and intelligence. I have been trying to showcase that a wise person never tries to use his strength in an exploit manner by taking actions under the influence of anger. An intelligent person never tries to play with the feelings of others and use them for his own benefit.

But now turning to the other side of coin, since red also symbolizes the purity of a relationship and the Red-veil, which symbolizes the auspiciousness of a married women’s life. Definitely in such a scenario , I stand against the topic that red and blue shall never meet, since I too believe that true love in such case that always needs patience, where Red and Blue actually goes hand in hand.

At the same point, living in a westernized era and a modernized world, true love is something that has just been restricted to the novels of one of its kind. And unfortunately, even in the love alias lust stories, nowadays red and blue never go hand in hand because people tend to be more loyal to different bodies than a single beautiful soul nowadays.

RED is RED, BLUE is BLUE and never the two shall meet.

DREAMS....A Long Journey

Dreams aren't what we see in closed eyes.
Dreams are what that don't let us sleep.
                                                      - Dr.APJ Abdul Kalam

                                            DREAMS

 

Yes, there are few paths which remain unchased,
Few dreams not fulfilled.
Few roads never walked,
And few goals always remain unaccomplished...

The time is less,
And the choices are many.
We live in reel life,
Instead of real one.
We wish to give less & accept more,
We smile during selfies & never try to know what happiness actually means.
We tend to be social via networking & not by interacting,
We bound love with conditions & forget loving unconditionally.
We try to live in fantasy,
And never experience the true harsh world.

Yes few paths are never taken,
Because our inability to do so, speaks before us.
Before witnessing the problem,
We often get afraid.
We tend to run away,
Instead of chasing or working upon it.
yes, we often give up....

Few dreams are never fulfilled
Not because its impossible to accomplish,
It's because we lack to aspire.
We try to ponder over our flaws,
Instead of working upon them.

Just like the promises are meant to be kept,
Dreams are meant to be achieved.
Like the secrets aren't meant to be revealed...
The true aim isn't meant for showing off.

Along the success journey,
comes many difficulties,
that might just turn,
happiness into miseries
happiness into miseries....

But the feeling of reaching on top, is somewhat special and none can take that away
from you. So, this is what should keep you motivated all the time.
Just remember the hardwork you are putting in today is going to show the results
tomorrow.
#STOP OVERTHINKING START LIVING

MATURITY

A nineteen year old guy walking down the streets of Connaught Place, with a bearded face, carrying a shoulder bag, holding a lollipop in one hand and laughing out loud in public with his besties. Can that person explain what maturity is? The guy having a mentality of 13 year old kid at the age of nineteen, will he actually be able to convey what maturity is all about? A person who every time shows up with a gentle rocking smile on his face might not have faced any hardships in life is what our foremost perception can be .

But the picture is not always what it looks like, what we perceive isn’t always the truth. Few people might consider that person to be childish or even stupid, but I look upto him as an inspiration, who likes to stay cheerful and happy all the time without any reason. According to him if you are happy for a reason you are not doing it right because your happiness ends when the reason goes away. Just like the grass is always greener on the other side and the second side of coin can never be seen, in a similar way there might have been many transient phases in the life of that individual that now he has trained himself to subjugate all that pain very well and accept life the way it is.

Or was it something else, was he actually happy? After having a long conversation with that individual, I realized just because he laughs a lot, doesn’t mean his life is easy. Just because he has a smile on his face, doesn’t mean something isn’t bothering him. Actually he chose not to dwell on the negatives, keeping head up and move on with his life. I came to know a lot more things, a lot of ideas about how to live freely, openly and whole-heartedly, what maturity is and most importantly how to stay happy and make others happy too. How to deal with the hardships in life and how to use the best two tools – cute smile and the meaningful silence in the most suitable ways.

Apologizing doesn’t always mean that you are wrong and the other person is right, it just means that you value your relationship more than your ego. That individual emphasized on the importance of a meaningful silence, which is better than loads of meaningless words. He emphasized on the need of staying quiet and dealing with the issues patiently rather than getting nervous and creating a mess out of them. Maturity lies in the fact of dealing crises/hardships with patience and having a full fledged plan to curb it instead of getting impatient and finally indulging into a deeper crises.

Maturity is when you accept people the way they are and when you understand that everyone is right in their own perspective, instead of trying to superimpose your opinion on them. When you are able to differentiate between ‘need’ and ‘wants’ and are able to let go off your wants, you can be called mature. Maturity is when you stop comparing yourself from others and when you stop trying to change others but rather focus on changing yourself. You are mature enough when you stop proving the world how intelligent you are, when you do not seek approval from others and when you are at peace with yourself.

While interacting with him, there was a point when he started discussing his personal life and came up with the instances that how having a good heart can put you in some fucked up situations or the really hard times. Presently, he strongly opposes being polite since according to him, being polite is so rare these days that it is often confused with flirting or being submissive. He also believed in the ideology that it is better to be arrogant with arrogant people , as accordingly this is the only language they respect, as they confound kindness with weakness. Apart from this the individual also compared human to an iron piece and stated that none can destroy iron, but its own rust can. Likewise none can destroy a person but his own mindset.

And then somehow in the middle of conversation came the topic of relationships, one of the most relevant topics in any teenager’s conversation. But here also he centered his focus on maturity and made a point that true maturity is when you are able to drop ‘expectations’ from a relationship and give it for the sake of giving and when you stop attaching yourself to the material things. At the same time, he made a statement that the parental love is incomparable and can never be ignored, with a gentle smile on his face.

The word ‘Love’, reminded him of the girl to whom he loved for 7+ years but couldn’t get her and as justification he said, “at some point you will realize that you have done so much for someone, that the next only possible step to do is to stop. Leave them alone. Walk away. It is not that you’re giving up and you shouldn’t try. It’s just that you have to draw a line between determination and desperation. What is truly yours, would eventually be yours and what is not, no matter how hard you try, will never be”.

By now, I was getting late and had to leave. I asked for his approval and at once he nodded, we shake hands  and I told him 'it was nice meeting you, Mr.Stranger', to which he replied "there are no strangers, they are just friends who never met."

TIMELINE

    1) INCOMPREHENSIBLE MISTAKES

        For few mistakes, we don't get punished not because there's no punishment for it but actually the guilt inside us is enough to give us a new death daily.

    2) INTER RELIGION LOVE STORIES

        At some point you realize that few people can stay in your hearts, but not in your lives.

    

    3) SWEET TRUTH

        *Sometimes, we can get a lot in our lives but not the everything.

        *And few are the bonds that don't need a title to describe its significance.

    4) UNFORGETTABLE MEMORIES

        Some people are so much precious that you get confused whether to keep them with you or let 

        them go.

    5) TRUE LOVE

        Few things can't be showcased but can only be felt.

    6) SEPARATION

        Sometimes all we need is strength to deal with the bitter truth and the fake happiness.

    7) PAINS IN LOVE

        A tired body and a retarded brain is much better than a broken heart.

  

    8) SELF EXPLORATION

        Although throughout our lives, change is the only constant but sometimes it is better to leave people than to change, because change isn't always correct.

    9) GROW UP PEOPLE

        Sometimes people tend to comment without actually knowing what all you have been going  through.

   10) FRIENDS

         And few people mean life to us, whose presence or absence makes the world of difference.

   11) HEALING YOURSELF

         I wish fake smile was actually the medicine to make up a broken soul or heart.

   12) TIME

         Time is something that runs way too fast, make sure you don't loose a grip over it.

   13) A KIND HEART

         There aren't any strangers, those are just friends you haven't met.

  

   14) INNER CONFLICTS, OUTER PEACE

         Thanks god for giving me the ability to forgive so easily but not to forget their mistakes ever.

         #justcancerianthings

         

   15) OPTIMISTIC

         Never underestimate yourself because the way you lead your life is actually an inspiration for  many.

       

LOVE BOREDOM :Revealing the secrets of true love

Yes,  many of the youngsters living in today's world, the civilised era and the modern society, doesn't believe in love at all and have almost replaced it with sex or time for fun. But is it the right path where the youth of our country is heading towards? After witnessing a number of relationships in the very young age, they have almost made the word love synonymous with boredom. And now most of the youngsters feel or consider relationships as relation shits.

Although while reading the blog it might look to you irrational on my part, yes a teenager speaking about all these things who might not know himself what love is. But after witnessing a number of real life examples and not the  reel life, I have gathered enough sense to write a thesis about it, but this isn't what you really need.

True Love isn't about the Public Display of Affections(PDA's) or Public Display of Fuckups(PDF's). It isn't either about the marriages taking between two individuals in the most luxurious ways. It isn't about spending a 15day honeymoon in London, Italy or Rome. Yes True Love isn't about flaunting at all. And most importantly it isn't about faking love or one night stands. Okay, but what true love is ??, a question definitely prevailing in your minds by now.

But do you really think that a nineteen year old boy can teach you what true love is or what all about it is , or even a 60 year old person can? Well, well, well my friends in that case you are taking it in a wrong direction because true love is something that can't be taught, it can only be felt, so accordingly everyone has their own definition of True Love.

As for me, the very first rule about true love is something far far away from showing off and being unreal. True Love is about loving one another without the need of physical pleasures. It is about showering love on one another, giving surprises, bringing smiles upon each other's face, respecting and supporting each other at every point of time and never leaving one another's side even in the toughest moments of life.

True Love isn't restricted to a particular caste, religion, race of a tribe. It has no boundaries. Money is something that matters but not as much as being together does. It is the trust and feelings of one another that holds two individuals together, who don't fear death and sacrifices, who can rely upon each other. It's about being childish, carefree and crazy with each other. It is all about being genuine, open minded and giving space to one another. Being yourself, being real and being truthful plays a vital role in any love story.

True Love is about accepting a person with all their flaws, weaknesses, likes/dislikes. It is about liking the interests of the person and hating the dislikes. And most importantly True Love is something that is always two sided, it can't be forced upon someone by means of betrayal (forceful acts), misuse of power or money. It is about supporting and loving one another unconditionally.

True Love never dies, it is just eternal. People die but their love stories doesn't . It is almost synonym with the true friendship, that it isn't about who came earlier in your lives, it's about who came and never left your side. And love marriages are about the two individuals from simple families marrying in most simple ways following all the rituals, traditions and taking the blessings from elders, without feeling the need to show off.

True Love is something which is over any other feeling in the world. It is an example of the purest and the most phenomenally beautiful bonds which has ever existed. But sadly 90% of the teenagers fail to understand what true love is and confuses them with the temporarily crushes that enter their lives, hook ups and link ups are often mistaken as true love because of which teenagers have to go through bad times, bear the consequences of breakups either by getting into depression or getting their trust over from true love.

So it's the high time, the youth, the teenagers, must realise what True Love is all about and doesn't relate it to crushes and link ups at all because temporary memories aren't supposed to fit in as a part of beautiful memories. So try getting know what True Love actually means to avoid the consequences and to lead a happy blissful life. Although it will take time to understand what all it is actually but once you get to know it, that would surely be a life changing moment and an unforgettable memory for you.

Revealing the secrets of True Friendship

Most of the people in this world have got friends who will pick them up when they fall, support them if they get distracted or deviated from their paths in life, but luckily we have got some friends who never let us fall. So this is something where I don't feel like mentioning the names of people because all those who have been a part of journey of my life will understand themselves.

As usual, the issues prevail in every other relationship and friendship is one of them and the misunderstandings arrives to check how strong the bond actually is. All those who came in your lives, lived under the name of friends, took your advantage in someway or the other, left one day unknowingly and never tried to reach back, depicts nothing but just a fake friendship is. And yes people out there, surprisingly the worst victims of this disease-'Fake Friendship' are the rich, who now aren't so well off due to some financial losses.That is one of the best times to check, who your true friends  actually are.

And on the other hand, we have got people who never leave our side,always stands with you in every good and bad situation, always there to help you out even in the worst times, motivates you to do your best, explains you like a teacher, plays the role of a guide, a philosopher, a parent, a sibling and never tell something that turns out to be demotivating for you in the long run. These are the ones who never distract you from the path of success, never allow you to get onto the wrong path in life. Yes people, these are the ones who we call our 'TRUE FRIENDS' and they are the ones who 'treat you like a family' - this is where the difference lies.

'True Friends' - Yes a badge, a degree that isn't so easy to earn, you have to work hard, actually really hard, friendship should be the  topmost priority, you should obey your duties and never fail an examination. Yes, people friendship is one of the most beautiful bonds and just like any other bond/relationship, there are a set of duties to fulfil in friendship as well. For all those who are or who have been a true friend to someone will understand about which duties I am talking about.

 And yes there's an examination as well, that is the need of a friend in the difficult times of life and the friend who plays a significant role at that moment is the one who we call a true friend. This is one of the most difficult examinations around the globe since it cannot be cleared just in a single attempt, you have to prove yourself in every other situation whenever the need arises. The levels of friendship are broadly classified as -> ordinary friends, above average friends, good friends, extraordinary friends, best friends, BFF and ultimately culminating upto 'lifelines'.

Although the word friends is almost synonymous with the word 'fun', but in reality the picture is altogether different. Although there's no harm in chilling out with friends, making fun of each other, doing random shitty stuff together, doing pranks on one another, making funny faces, making fun of people. But one must also realise the importance of the duties to be fulfilled, because this is one arena which differentiates you from an ordinary friend from a true friend. A true friend is someone who never hurts you by their words or actions, is always there to stand by you in every ups and downs in life.

True Maturity is understanding each other's point of views, giving one another a definite amount of space, not revealing each other's secrets, listening without interrupting are a set of few necessities that must be present in the bond called true friendship. Otherwise we might just see more and more classical examples of breaking friendship which we usually witness everyday in front of us or in our own lives.

Although it is a sweet bond, where the constraints like 'Thinking before speaking', aren't generally followed and believe me, it isn't even necessary to follow one, since friendship might come with few duties to fulfil but it can never come with boundations since friendship is one such relationship which is by choice and not by compulsion.

Many a times we see that due to one or the other reason, a misunderstanding is created which affects the beautiful bond between two individuals(friends) in numerous ways. And all being teenagers or people from high profiles, one most common scenario which comes into picture is 'EGO CLASHES'. Yes, people EGO is one such thing that is affecting us, it never allows us to admit our own mistakes and we always tend to think that other one is the culprit. We are the ones, who never feel like saying sorry and show attitude for no reason, and that is the point in time when we are heading towards a wrong direction. Just remember people, saying a sorry is never going to lower your self esteem instead it is going to increase love and respect for you in the hearts of the other one and also saves the bond from breaking.

Blaming others is not always the right thing to do, it isn't too late now, just pick up your phone and call all those with whom you aren't on talking terms. So let's keep our ego aside and make the first move. Let's make this world a better place to live for you and for me!!!

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The overbreezes of my heart,
starts on like the Ancient Mariner.
He the evil killed the bird,
And I the devil killed myself.
Not physically but mentally and emotionally
Just not for that silly girl
Who came to drive over my heart,
And strive all my life in pain.
But for that innocent lady,
who deserves to get my lifetime love
in the last moments of her life.
In exchange of the most precious moments,
that she gave me all her life.
She just not taught me how to stand and walk on my own feet,
but she also taught me how to withstand the adverse conditions of life.
I was a mere beginner in life,
before she stood by me and made me an extremediate.
I often misunderstood her,
but she never undermined herself.
The food she made was scrummy,
just like eating a cake so yummy.
She was always as sweet as honey to me,
and I was all the time cruel to her.
She always wanted to made me a good person in life,
but I always thought it as an interference in my life.
In her last days, she was totally quieten
And her body was weakened.
Her face was full of wrinkles.
Her energy decreased extensively,
And she could barely walk......
Once she was taken to hospital,
Days passed, weeks passed...
And she never came back..
Yes my grandmother never came back...

Note:- Value what you have today because once it's gone, it's gone... No powers can ever bring them back.