ZNMD

Stressed and depressed of what's going on or how to go about your life and accomplish what you always dream of. Don't worry majority of youth is with you. Just sit back and read, feel motivated and have a new beginning from today itself. 

                                

                                       ZNMD

As most of you have already guessed the abbreviation correctly ZNMD – Yes, Zindagi Na Milege Dobara it is. Rarest of the topics, but most general things to write or say about, we have got to live once, why not live it to the fullest. That’s something too obvious, known to everyone and each one of us tries to live according to situations that arise in one’s life (much of like a situation based kind of life, isn’t it ? ). Then what is going to be so special about this particular blog post, come let’s check it out !!

If you are in the last year of graduation and reading this, probably you are one of the most appropriate out of the lot to get into the gist of this post and know its in-depth meaning. While walking down the past 2/3  years of graduation, we worked hard, sometimes harder but this last year is the time when you need to put in your best to get the placements, to settle down happily in your career and have luxurious life. You need to work to your optimum to get best out of you, we have been hearing the same sort of statements from past 3/4 years. Stressed and depressed of what's going on or how to go about your life and accomplish what you always dream of. Don't worry majority of youth is with you. Just sit back and read, feel motivated and have a new beginning from today itself.

And somehow or the other we even get subjugated to all this, our teenage minds got influenced by our elders, teachers or whomsoever we consider wise enough. The monthly sessions on motivation, career guiding tips from elders, sometimes from randomly life failed strangers, failure driven adults and hard-work fearing people have been successfully pulling us to an end, where we all have started focusing to work hard, sometimes harder enough to built up a life so that we can live happily with all the luxuries after 5/8 years from now.

And this is what we call a threat driven life, where we are afraid of what is going to happen in future and stop living in present, a life which is situation based and not craving for a future that is passion driven.

And now is the time, to give a break…… Just ponder over and give a second thought and try to realize what will you actually loose in these 5/8 years to get a life that you might not get assuredly, or even if you get one, you have lost your “YOUTH” – Yes, the young age, the most special time in any individual’s life

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YOUTH -> The time to make mistakes, to learn from them, to stand after falling, to be on top after failing, to live, to explore, to love, to forget and to forgive. The time to do each and every thing that you always thought of, time to explore the world, travel world, make friends, spend nights at clubs, go on adventure trips and what not, practically the best time in any individual’s life.

Definitely, while working hard and achieving a goal that you always dreamt of, bring immense amount of joy on our faces, making our parents proud and knowing the reason behind happiness on their faces is you is definitely a special feeling. Running around with head high and showing off in society might enhance your self-esteem, but setting goals that aren’t youth-oriented and passion-driven isn’t the right way to lead our lives.

YOUTH -> The time when you are actually full of life, you are fearless, ready to accept challenges, work hard, you are at the stage where you can use yourself to your full potential and reach the all new heights without even compensating on your personal lives, just by maintaining a perfect balance by being mentally, physically and socially strong.

Definitely, being aimless in life and having no goals set is something you must not go by ever, but maintain a balance is something for which you should strive hard for. May you work hard and harder but don’t engross into that much that you need to be realized of this chapter again……… ZNMD (Zindagi na Milege Dobara).

Let’s try to make the journey more beautiful than the final destination.

Keep loving <3

#STOP OVERTHINKING START LIVING

Harsh Reality

            
What kind of a society are we living in?

Where grades are getting low, teens are getting high. Intelligence quotient and practical knowledge is falling extensively, gymming and fashion statements are increasing impressively. Number of teens entering pubs is touching skies and students entering into libraries are reducing.

The 12 year old is pregnant and her parents wonder why. A 1^st grader is swearing, a 3^rd grader has been exploited and molested. Just take a look around you, isn't the system great? Who isn’t faded these days, teens are sending nudes, kids are getting beaten, the teachers see the bruises and aren’t reacting.

No calls for help are spoken, teens are smoking weed, young girls are cutting, this isn’t what we need. The marks of taunt and yelling, parents are getting divorced, impacting a child’s life severely in every possible way.

The 14 year old is drinking beer, this can’t get any worse. The 15 year old are gossiping about physical assets and crotches. Browsing in incognito mode and a sudden rise in viewing porn sites is highly commendable. Another kid has been expelled for a stupid dare. A little girl has killed herself, no one seems to care. But, yes this needs to change.

Getting after money, stepping into modernization, but by kicking our cultural values and not being concerned how it is impacting teens, sorry this isn’t how it is done. All this needs to be changed. Our world is officially broken. It is the time to take a stand; your thoughts need to be spoken.

(Leave your suggestions in comment box below)

Cause: The hidden reason

                                  

There’s always something that stops us from achieving what we can, there’s something that restricts our ability to train ourselves with utmost potential to complete our desires. People often call them hindrances and the third parties refer to them as excuses.

But personally, I call them with a different name “Cause“  -> Yes, because it is these causes ( the rooted hidden reasons) that might just turn these hindrances into stepping stones or the keystone that will enable you to achieve your success path in life. This “Cause” will probably help you one day to get focused and work on your weak points with wholesome dedication and sincerity, when even the luck will lie down against your hardwork.

And this ability to turn your hindrance/excuse into a stepping stone, lies in your mindset, in your optimistic nature, in your will to get engaged in hardwork and strive for gold. Even the word Impossible says -> I am possible, if looked at it in a different perspective and this choice of looking at things in a unique and optimistic way comes from within our souls when we realize that life is not a cakewalk and spoon feeding can’t be all the time.

Encouraging instead of criticizing, loving over hating, caring instead of ignoring, understanding instead of judging and initiating instead of waiting are the best possible tools to elevate your optimistic life. Just like the sea is common for all, yet some people find pearls, some find fishes and others just get their feet wet, in a similar way life is common to all, we can only get what we try for.

Our lives never come up with Warranties and Guaranties….. it can only provide us with opportunities and possibilities to convert them into success. And for those of you who think that the statement stands false, then my dear readers we would have never seen the college dropouts turning into multi-billionaires (Bill Gates and Steve Jobs).

 Positive thinking is the investment which gives regular dividend in the form of self confidence and confidence doesn’t come when you have all the answers, it comes when you are ready to face all the questions (Remember that over when Yuvraj Singh smashed 6 sixes in a row , he wasn’t sure about hitting all of them and crossing the boundary but he had the courage  and “confidence” to put in best of his effort at every ball) .

Believing in God, praying to get solutions for our problems or getting more opportunities is somewhat justified but depending on god to get your problems solved is what I refer to as foolishness. Having faith in God and depending on God to get our problems solved, issues solved are two very different things because if that isn’t true, Bill Gates who never prayed to Lord Lakshmi would have never been so rich and Albert Einstein who never prayed to Lord Saraswati would have never been so intelligent.

At last before turning off this post, I would like to suggest in this world of constant changes keep yourself determined and focused by laying down with hardwork and do not get influenced by anyone.                                                                                                                                   Talk with many to know about their lives and experiences.                                                                                                                                         Listen to few of them to learn and get motivated.                                                                                                                                                              Follow one -> That is what your heart says.   Live out for your passion and never get scared of working hard.                                      Just remember the hardwork that you are putting in today is going to show the results tomorrow.

JUVENILE PUNISHMENT

                                           Standardization of penalty for juveniles ???

Really an interesting topic to debate on… Well I personally feel that juveniles should not be held to the same standards of criminal responsibility as adults because in adolescents, decision making is diminished, they are less culpable to resist coercive influence and their character is still undergoing change. Standing firm against the hypothesis/topic by laying the foundation that emerging knowledge about cognitive, psychosocial and neurobiological development in adolescents supports the conclusion that I feel about not standardizing the criminal punishment for juveniles like that of adults.

The starting point of my argument is the core principle of proportionality -> the foundation of any legitimate system of state punishment i.e. proportionality holds that fair criminal punishment is measured not only by the harm caused or threatened by the individual but also by his or her blame worthiness. Thus the question that we address is whether, and in what ways the immaturity of adolescent offenders is relevant to their blame worthiness, and in turn to appropriate punishment for their criminal acts. Well answering such a question requires a careful examination of the developmental capacities and processes that are relevant to adolescent criminal choices, as well as the conditions and circumstances that reduce culpability in the criminal law.

First and the most obviously, adolescents levels of cognitive and psychosocial developmental are likely to shape their choices, including the criminal choices, in what ways that distinguish them from adults and that may undermine competent decision making. Secondly, because in adolescents decision making capacities are immature and their autonomy constrained, they are more vulnerable than adults to the influence of coercive circumstances that mitigate culpability for all persons such as provocation or threat. Finally, because these adolescents are still in the process of forming personal identity, their criminal behavior is less likely than that of an adult to reflect bad character.

Human mind is basically divided into two parts -> the primary subconscious mind and the secondary mind or the main memory. And in adolescents this subconscious mind is much more prone to the influence as compared to mature adults. Adolescent mind is vulnerable to getting hypnotized too. Subconscious state of mind can easily be achieved in adolescents due to hormonal changes and hence most of the crimes committed by them are actually against their will and not by choice.

Just take for instance, as for privileged people like all of you reading this post, transition means from orkut to facebook to insta to twitter to finally snapchat. Just how our lives constantly revolve around showoff and fame, in a similar way for unprivileged and illiterate lives revolve around money, the biggest necessity and the most essential one. When we being the privileged ones can be easily brainwashed in the name of social networking to raising businesses, in the name of entrepreneurship to network marketing, then in a similar way these innocent teenagers are brainwashed in the name of money to committing crimes. Most of the times even they are unaware of the crime that they are involved in.

Thus typical adolescents are less culpable than adults because juvenile criminal conduct is driven by transitory influences that are constitutive of this developmental stage. And raising adolescents to the same standards of criminal punishment as that of adults is somewhat unfair what I feel. However, the alternatives like correction homes and good parenting are always the better alternatives.

War Of Two Natures

                            RED & BLUE

Red, the color associated with love, passion, sensuality, romance is also a symbol of vigor, rage, anger, malice, wrath, stress, action and determination, color red at the same point symbolizes blood and the fire, correlated directly to deaths and wars.

On the other hand, blue the color of sky and sea, often associated with depth and stability, it also symbolizes calmness, patience, wisdom, confidence, intelligence, truth and heaven.

Blue is considered to be beneficial to mind and body, whereas red is considered to be injurious to mind and body as it is a disgrace to humanity.

With that ideology in mind, I firmly believe that Red is Red, Blue is Blue and never the two shall meet because wrath and wisdom, rage and calmness, short temper and patience, hatred and love, enemity and friendship can never go hand in hand according to what I perceive or have seen during the past 19 years of my life.

It is often said that a person should keep control on his words in the state of anger because although words don’t have teeth, but when they bite the pain is miserable. Also the words once spoken, can never be taken back.

Always standing firm for the color blue, not because of being a big time Chelsea fan but due to the fact that I believe calmness and patience are the best tools to deal with any crisis. Time heals everything and using calmness followed by silence in a define way is a sure shot to solve any problem and none can stop you from achieving success in life.

Red, which symbolizes danger and stress, portraying a tensed personality, surely symbolizes pessimistic behavior whereas the color blue often associated with in-depth knowledge and stability symbolizes an optimistic person. Just like the two sides of a coin can never be viewed simultaneously and a person can never be introvert and extrovert at the same time. Similarly, a person can either be an optimist or a pessimist, hence red and blue can never go hand in hand.

At this point of time, someone might just come up with the ideal theory of color ‘Magenta’, which is composition of equal proportions of color red mixed with color blue. Magenta symbolizes harmony, unity and what not!!! but my dear readers that is just a fallacy and if you really want to get into reality, just think of a single instance where a wise decision has been taken under the influence of anger. What people, pondering over the slap that took place between Harbhajan and Shreeshant or the ever-going abuses of Virat Kohli.

Just take into consideration, over a number of ruthless acts taking place constantly in the capital of our nation, Delhi. How the number of criminal activities in Delhi led to the transition of DILLI DILWALO KI to DILLI KHOONWALO KI and still you try to say that red and blue can ever re-unite.

We often fail to realize the pain which an individual undergoes, when they witness us in the state of anger, how terrifying it can be for children, how harsh our words might feel to them, after which even the word ‘Sorry’, might not just make a big difference.

Definitely, being surrounded by engineers or coming out from engineering background few of you must be thinking of asking for a practical implementation of the above hypothesis. So my dear friends just take a melamine plate in your hand and break it off on floor, then just say 'SORRY'. Did it get back the way it was before? By this you must have realized that a wise person never takes a decision under the influence of anger and understands the importance of fragile thin thread that strengthens any bond, be it love or friendship.

RED is RED, BLUE is BLUE and never the two shall meet.

In the course of the post till this point, I have been comparing the feelings of anger, malice, wrath to patience, calmness and intelligence. I have been trying to showcase that a wise person never tries to use his strength in an exploit manner by taking actions under the influence of anger. An intelligent person never tries to play with the feelings of others and use them for his own benefit.

But now turning to the other side of coin, since red also symbolizes the purity of a relationship and the Red-veil, which symbolizes the auspiciousness of a married women’s life. Definitely in such a scenario , I stand against the topic that red and blue shall never meet, since I too believe that true love in such case that always needs patience, where Red and Blue actually goes hand in hand.

At the same point, living in a westernized era and a modernized world, true love is something that has just been restricted to the novels of one of its kind. And unfortunately, even in the love alias lust stories, nowadays red and blue never go hand in hand because people tend to be more loyal to different bodies than a single beautiful soul nowadays.

RED is RED, BLUE is BLUE and never the two shall meet.

DREAMS....A Long Journey

Dreams aren't what we see in closed eyes.
Dreams are what that don't let us sleep.
                                                      - Dr.APJ Abdul Kalam

                                            DREAMS

 

Yes, there are few paths which remain unchased,
Few dreams not fulfilled.
Few roads never walked,
And few goals always remain unaccomplished...

The time is less,
And the choices are many.
We live in reel life,
Instead of real one.
We wish to give less & accept more,
We smile during selfies & never try to know what happiness actually means.
We tend to be social via networking & not by interacting,
We bound love with conditions & forget loving unconditionally.
We try to live in fantasy,
And never experience the true harsh world.

Yes few paths are never taken,
Because our inability to do so, speaks before us.
Before witnessing the problem,
We often get afraid.
We tend to run away,
Instead of chasing or working upon it.
yes, we often give up....

Few dreams are never fulfilled
Not because its impossible to accomplish,
It's because we lack to aspire.
We try to ponder over our flaws,
Instead of working upon them.

Just like the promises are meant to be kept,
Dreams are meant to be achieved.
Like the secrets aren't meant to be revealed...
The true aim isn't meant for showing off.

Along the success journey,
comes many difficulties,
that might just turn,
happiness into miseries
happiness into miseries....

But the feeling of reaching on top, is somewhat special and none can take that away
from you. So, this is what should keep you motivated all the time.
Just remember the hardwork you are putting in today is going to show the results
tomorrow.
#STOP OVERTHINKING START LIVING

MATURITY

A nineteen year old guy walking down the streets of Connaught Place, with a bearded face, carrying a shoulder bag, holding a lollipop in one hand and laughing out loud in public with his besties. Can that person explain what maturity is? The guy having a mentality of 13 year old kid at the age of nineteen, will he actually be able to convey what maturity is all about? A person who every time shows up with a gentle rocking smile on his face might not have faced any hardships in life is what our foremost perception can be .

But the picture is not always what it looks like, what we perceive isn’t always the truth. Few people might consider that person to be childish or even stupid, but I look upto him as an inspiration, who likes to stay cheerful and happy all the time without any reason. According to him if you are happy for a reason you are not doing it right because your happiness ends when the reason goes away. Just like the grass is always greener on the other side and the second side of coin can never be seen, in a similar way there might have been many transient phases in the life of that individual that now he has trained himself to subjugate all that pain very well and accept life the way it is.

Or was it something else, was he actually happy? After having a long conversation with that individual, I realized just because he laughs a lot, doesn’t mean his life is easy. Just because he has a smile on his face, doesn’t mean something isn’t bothering him. Actually he chose not to dwell on the negatives, keeping head up and move on with his life. I came to know a lot more things, a lot of ideas about how to live freely, openly and whole-heartedly, what maturity is and most importantly how to stay happy and make others happy too. How to deal with the hardships in life and how to use the best two tools – cute smile and the meaningful silence in the most suitable ways.

Apologizing doesn’t always mean that you are wrong and the other person is right, it just means that you value your relationship more than your ego. That individual emphasized on the importance of a meaningful silence, which is better than loads of meaningless words. He emphasized on the need of staying quiet and dealing with the issues patiently rather than getting nervous and creating a mess out of them. Maturity lies in the fact of dealing crises/hardships with patience and having a full fledged plan to curb it instead of getting impatient and finally indulging into a deeper crises.

Maturity is when you accept people the way they are and when you understand that everyone is right in their own perspective, instead of trying to superimpose your opinion on them. When you are able to differentiate between ‘need’ and ‘wants’ and are able to let go off your wants, you can be called mature. Maturity is when you stop comparing yourself from others and when you stop trying to change others but rather focus on changing yourself. You are mature enough when you stop proving the world how intelligent you are, when you do not seek approval from others and when you are at peace with yourself.

While interacting with him, there was a point when he started discussing his personal life and came up with the instances that how having a good heart can put you in some fucked up situations or the really hard times. Presently, he strongly opposes being polite since according to him, being polite is so rare these days that it is often confused with flirting or being submissive. He also believed in the ideology that it is better to be arrogant with arrogant people , as accordingly this is the only language they respect, as they confound kindness with weakness. Apart from this the individual also compared human to an iron piece and stated that none can destroy iron, but its own rust can. Likewise none can destroy a person but his own mindset.

And then somehow in the middle of conversation came the topic of relationships, one of the most relevant topics in any teenager’s conversation. But here also he centered his focus on maturity and made a point that true maturity is when you are able to drop ‘expectations’ from a relationship and give it for the sake of giving and when you stop attaching yourself to the material things. At the same time, he made a statement that the parental love is incomparable and can never be ignored, with a gentle smile on his face.

The word ‘Love’, reminded him of the girl to whom he loved for 7+ years but couldn’t get her and as justification he said, “at some point you will realize that you have done so much for someone, that the next only possible step to do is to stop. Leave them alone. Walk away. It is not that you’re giving up and you shouldn’t try. It’s just that you have to draw a line between determination and desperation. What is truly yours, would eventually be yours and what is not, no matter how hard you try, will never be”.

By now, I was getting late and had to leave. I asked for his approval and at once he nodded, we shake hands  and I told him 'it was nice meeting you, Mr.Stranger', to which he replied "there are no strangers, they are just friends who never met."