ZNMD

Stressed and depressed of what's going on or how to go about your life and accomplish what you always dream of. Don't worry majority of youth is with you. Just sit back and read, feel motivated and have a new beginning from today itself. 

                                

                                       ZNMD

As most of you have already guessed the abbreviation correctly ZNMD – Yes, Zindagi Na Milege Dobara it is. Rarest of the topics, but most general things to write or say about, we have got to live once, why not live it to the fullest. That’s something too obvious, known to everyone and each one of us tries to live according to situations that arise in one’s life (much of like a situation based kind of life, isn’t it ? ). Then what is going to be so special about this particular blog post, come let’s check it out !!

If you are in the last year of graduation and reading this, probably you are one of the most appropriate out of the lot to get into the gist of this post and know its in-depth meaning. While walking down the past 2/3  years of graduation, we worked hard, sometimes harder but this last year is the time when you need to put in your best to get the placements, to settle down happily in your career and have luxurious life. You need to work to your optimum to get best out of you, we have been hearing the same sort of statements from past 3/4 years. Stressed and depressed of what's going on or how to go about your life and accomplish what you always dream of. Don't worry majority of youth is with you. Just sit back and read, feel motivated and have a new beginning from today itself.

And somehow or the other we even get subjugated to all this, our teenage minds got influenced by our elders, teachers or whomsoever we consider wise enough. The monthly sessions on motivation, career guiding tips from elders, sometimes from randomly life failed strangers, failure driven adults and hard-work fearing people have been successfully pulling us to an end, where we all have started focusing to work hard, sometimes harder enough to built up a life so that we can live happily with all the luxuries after 5/8 years from now.

And this is what we call a threat driven life, where we are afraid of what is going to happen in future and stop living in present, a life which is situation based and not craving for a future that is passion driven.

And now is the time, to give a break…… Just ponder over and give a second thought and try to realize what will you actually loose in these 5/8 years to get a life that you might not get assuredly, or even if you get one, you have lost your “YOUTH” – Yes, the young age, the most special time in any individual’s life

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YOUTH -> The time to make mistakes, to learn from them, to stand after falling, to be on top after failing, to live, to explore, to love, to forget and to forgive. The time to do each and every thing that you always thought of, time to explore the world, travel world, make friends, spend nights at clubs, go on adventure trips and what not, practically the best time in any individual’s life.

Definitely, while working hard and achieving a goal that you always dreamt of, bring immense amount of joy on our faces, making our parents proud and knowing the reason behind happiness on their faces is you is definitely a special feeling. Running around with head high and showing off in society might enhance your self-esteem, but setting goals that aren’t youth-oriented and passion-driven isn’t the right way to lead our lives.

YOUTH -> The time when you are actually full of life, you are fearless, ready to accept challenges, work hard, you are at the stage where you can use yourself to your full potential and reach the all new heights without even compensating on your personal lives, just by maintaining a perfect balance by being mentally, physically and socially strong.

Definitely, being aimless in life and having no goals set is something you must not go by ever, but maintain a balance is something for which you should strive hard for. May you work hard and harder but don’t engross into that much that you need to be realized of this chapter again……… ZNMD (Zindagi na Milege Dobara).

Let’s try to make the journey more beautiful than the final destination.

Keep loving <3

#STOP OVERTHINKING START LIVING

Harsh Reality

            
What kind of a society are we living in?

Where grades are getting low, teens are getting high. Intelligence quotient and practical knowledge is falling extensively, gymming and fashion statements are increasing impressively. Number of teens entering pubs is touching skies and students entering into libraries are reducing.

The 12 year old is pregnant and her parents wonder why. A 1^st grader is swearing, a 3^rd grader has been exploited and molested. Just take a look around you, isn't the system great? Who isn’t faded these days, teens are sending nudes, kids are getting beaten, the teachers see the bruises and aren’t reacting.

No calls for help are spoken, teens are smoking weed, young girls are cutting, this isn’t what we need. The marks of taunt and yelling, parents are getting divorced, impacting a child’s life severely in every possible way.

The 14 year old is drinking beer, this can’t get any worse. The 15 year old are gossiping about physical assets and crotches. Browsing in incognito mode and a sudden rise in viewing porn sites is highly commendable. Another kid has been expelled for a stupid dare. A little girl has killed herself, no one seems to care. But, yes this needs to change.

Getting after money, stepping into modernization, but by kicking our cultural values and not being concerned how it is impacting teens, sorry this isn’t how it is done. All this needs to be changed. Our world is officially broken. It is the time to take a stand; your thoughts need to be spoken.

(Leave your suggestions in comment box below)

Cause: The hidden reason

                                  

There’s always something that stops us from achieving what we can, there’s something that restricts our ability to train ourselves with utmost potential to complete our desires. People often call them hindrances and the third parties refer to them as excuses.

But personally, I call them with a different name “Cause“  -> Yes, because it is these causes ( the rooted hidden reasons) that might just turn these hindrances into stepping stones or the keystone that will enable you to achieve your success path in life. This “Cause” will probably help you one day to get focused and work on your weak points with wholesome dedication and sincerity, when even the luck will lie down against your hardwork.

And this ability to turn your hindrance/excuse into a stepping stone, lies in your mindset, in your optimistic nature, in your will to get engaged in hardwork and strive for gold. Even the word Impossible says -> I am possible, if looked at it in a different perspective and this choice of looking at things in a unique and optimistic way comes from within our souls when we realize that life is not a cakewalk and spoon feeding can’t be all the time.

Encouraging instead of criticizing, loving over hating, caring instead of ignoring, understanding instead of judging and initiating instead of waiting are the best possible tools to elevate your optimistic life. Just like the sea is common for all, yet some people find pearls, some find fishes and others just get their feet wet, in a similar way life is common to all, we can only get what we try for.

Our lives never come up with Warranties and Guaranties….. it can only provide us with opportunities and possibilities to convert them into success. And for those of you who think that the statement stands false, then my dear readers we would have never seen the college dropouts turning into multi-billionaires (Bill Gates and Steve Jobs).

 Positive thinking is the investment which gives regular dividend in the form of self confidence and confidence doesn’t come when you have all the answers, it comes when you are ready to face all the questions (Remember that over when Yuvraj Singh smashed 6 sixes in a row , he wasn’t sure about hitting all of them and crossing the boundary but he had the courage  and “confidence” to put in best of his effort at every ball) .

Believing in God, praying to get solutions for our problems or getting more opportunities is somewhat justified but depending on god to get your problems solved is what I refer to as foolishness. Having faith in God and depending on God to get our problems solved, issues solved are two very different things because if that isn’t true, Bill Gates who never prayed to Lord Lakshmi would have never been so rich and Albert Einstein who never prayed to Lord Saraswati would have never been so intelligent.

At last before turning off this post, I would like to suggest in this world of constant changes keep yourself determined and focused by laying down with hardwork and do not get influenced by anyone.                                                                                                                                   Talk with many to know about their lives and experiences.                                                                                                                                         Listen to few of them to learn and get motivated.                                                                                                                                                              Follow one -> That is what your heart says.   Live out for your passion and never get scared of working hard.                                      Just remember the hardwork that you are putting in today is going to show the results tomorrow.

JUVENILE PUNISHMENT

                                           Standardization of penalty for juveniles ???

Really an interesting topic to debate on… Well I personally feel that juveniles should not be held to the same standards of criminal responsibility as adults because in adolescents, decision making is diminished, they are less culpable to resist coercive influence and their character is still undergoing change. Standing firm against the hypothesis/topic by laying the foundation that emerging knowledge about cognitive, psychosocial and neurobiological development in adolescents supports the conclusion that I feel about not standardizing the criminal punishment for juveniles like that of adults.

The starting point of my argument is the core principle of proportionality -> the foundation of any legitimate system of state punishment i.e. proportionality holds that fair criminal punishment is measured not only by the harm caused or threatened by the individual but also by his or her blame worthiness. Thus the question that we address is whether, and in what ways the immaturity of adolescent offenders is relevant to their blame worthiness, and in turn to appropriate punishment for their criminal acts. Well answering such a question requires a careful examination of the developmental capacities and processes that are relevant to adolescent criminal choices, as well as the conditions and circumstances that reduce culpability in the criminal law.

First and the most obviously, adolescents levels of cognitive and psychosocial developmental are likely to shape their choices, including the criminal choices, in what ways that distinguish them from adults and that may undermine competent decision making. Secondly, because in adolescents decision making capacities are immature and their autonomy constrained, they are more vulnerable than adults to the influence of coercive circumstances that mitigate culpability for all persons such as provocation or threat. Finally, because these adolescents are still in the process of forming personal identity, their criminal behavior is less likely than that of an adult to reflect bad character.

Human mind is basically divided into two parts -> the primary subconscious mind and the secondary mind or the main memory. And in adolescents this subconscious mind is much more prone to the influence as compared to mature adults. Adolescent mind is vulnerable to getting hypnotized too. Subconscious state of mind can easily be achieved in adolescents due to hormonal changes and hence most of the crimes committed by them are actually against their will and not by choice.

Just take for instance, as for privileged people like all of you reading this post, transition means from orkut to facebook to insta to twitter to finally snapchat. Just how our lives constantly revolve around showoff and fame, in a similar way for unprivileged and illiterate lives revolve around money, the biggest necessity and the most essential one. When we being the privileged ones can be easily brainwashed in the name of social networking to raising businesses, in the name of entrepreneurship to network marketing, then in a similar way these innocent teenagers are brainwashed in the name of money to committing crimes. Most of the times even they are unaware of the crime that they are involved in.

Thus typical adolescents are less culpable than adults because juvenile criminal conduct is driven by transitory influences that are constitutive of this developmental stage. And raising adolescents to the same standards of criminal punishment as that of adults is somewhat unfair what I feel. However, the alternatives like correction homes and good parenting are always the better alternatives.

War Of Two Natures

                            RED & BLUE

Red, the color associated with love, passion, sensuality, romance is also a symbol of vigor, rage, anger, malice, wrath, stress, action and determination, color red at the same point symbolizes blood and the fire, correlated directly to deaths and wars.

On the other hand, blue the color of sky and sea, often associated with depth and stability, it also symbolizes calmness, patience, wisdom, confidence, intelligence, truth and heaven.

Blue is considered to be beneficial to mind and body, whereas red is considered to be injurious to mind and body as it is a disgrace to humanity.

With that ideology in mind, I firmly believe that Red is Red, Blue is Blue and never the two shall meet because wrath and wisdom, rage and calmness, short temper and patience, hatred and love, enemity and friendship can never go hand in hand according to what I perceive or have seen during the past 19 years of my life.

It is often said that a person should keep control on his words in the state of anger because although words don’t have teeth, but when they bite the pain is miserable. Also the words once spoken, can never be taken back.

Always standing firm for the color blue, not because of being a big time Chelsea fan but due to the fact that I believe calmness and patience are the best tools to deal with any crisis. Time heals everything and using calmness followed by silence in a define way is a sure shot to solve any problem and none can stop you from achieving success in life.

Red, which symbolizes danger and stress, portraying a tensed personality, surely symbolizes pessimistic behavior whereas the color blue often associated with in-depth knowledge and stability symbolizes an optimistic person. Just like the two sides of a coin can never be viewed simultaneously and a person can never be introvert and extrovert at the same time. Similarly, a person can either be an optimist or a pessimist, hence red and blue can never go hand in hand.

At this point of time, someone might just come up with the ideal theory of color ‘Magenta’, which is composition of equal proportions of color red mixed with color blue. Magenta symbolizes harmony, unity and what not!!! but my dear readers that is just a fallacy and if you really want to get into reality, just think of a single instance where a wise decision has been taken under the influence of anger. What people, pondering over the slap that took place between Harbhajan and Shreeshant or the ever-going abuses of Virat Kohli.

Just take into consideration, over a number of ruthless acts taking place constantly in the capital of our nation, Delhi. How the number of criminal activities in Delhi led to the transition of DILLI DILWALO KI to DILLI KHOONWALO KI and still you try to say that red and blue can ever re-unite.

We often fail to realize the pain which an individual undergoes, when they witness us in the state of anger, how terrifying it can be for children, how harsh our words might feel to them, after which even the word ‘Sorry’, might not just make a big difference.

Definitely, being surrounded by engineers or coming out from engineering background few of you must be thinking of asking for a practical implementation of the above hypothesis. So my dear friends just take a melamine plate in your hand and break it off on floor, then just say 'SORRY'. Did it get back the way it was before? By this you must have realized that a wise person never takes a decision under the influence of anger and understands the importance of fragile thin thread that strengthens any bond, be it love or friendship.

RED is RED, BLUE is BLUE and never the two shall meet.

In the course of the post till this point, I have been comparing the feelings of anger, malice, wrath to patience, calmness and intelligence. I have been trying to showcase that a wise person never tries to use his strength in an exploit manner by taking actions under the influence of anger. An intelligent person never tries to play with the feelings of others and use them for his own benefit.

But now turning to the other side of coin, since red also symbolizes the purity of a relationship and the Red-veil, which symbolizes the auspiciousness of a married women’s life. Definitely in such a scenario , I stand against the topic that red and blue shall never meet, since I too believe that true love in such case that always needs patience, where Red and Blue actually goes hand in hand.

At the same point, living in a westernized era and a modernized world, true love is something that has just been restricted to the novels of one of its kind. And unfortunately, even in the love alias lust stories, nowadays red and blue never go hand in hand because people tend to be more loyal to different bodies than a single beautiful soul nowadays.

RED is RED, BLUE is BLUE and never the two shall meet.

DREAMS....A Long Journey

Dreams aren't what we see in closed eyes.
Dreams are what that don't let us sleep.
                                                      - Dr.APJ Abdul Kalam

                                            DREAMS

 

Yes, there are few paths which remain unchased,
Few dreams not fulfilled.
Few roads never walked,
And few goals always remain unaccomplished...

The time is less,
And the choices are many.
We live in reel life,
Instead of real one.
We wish to give less & accept more,
We smile during selfies & never try to know what happiness actually means.
We tend to be social via networking & not by interacting,
We bound love with conditions & forget loving unconditionally.
We try to live in fantasy,
And never experience the true harsh world.

Yes few paths are never taken,
Because our inability to do so, speaks before us.
Before witnessing the problem,
We often get afraid.
We tend to run away,
Instead of chasing or working upon it.
yes, we often give up....

Few dreams are never fulfilled
Not because its impossible to accomplish,
It's because we lack to aspire.
We try to ponder over our flaws,
Instead of working upon them.

Just like the promises are meant to be kept,
Dreams are meant to be achieved.
Like the secrets aren't meant to be revealed...
The true aim isn't meant for showing off.

Along the success journey,
comes many difficulties,
that might just turn,
happiness into miseries
happiness into miseries....

But the feeling of reaching on top, is somewhat special and none can take that away
from you. So, this is what should keep you motivated all the time.
Just remember the hardwork you are putting in today is going to show the results
tomorrow.
#STOP OVERTHINKING START LIVING

MATURITY

A nineteen year old guy walking down the streets of Connaught Place, with a bearded face, carrying a shoulder bag, holding a lollipop in one hand and laughing out loud in public with his besties. Can that person explain what maturity is? The guy having a mentality of 13 year old kid at the age of nineteen, will he actually be able to convey what maturity is all about? A person who every time shows up with a gentle rocking smile on his face might not have faced any hardships in life is what our foremost perception can be .

But the picture is not always what it looks like, what we perceive isn’t always the truth. Few people might consider that person to be childish or even stupid, but I look upto him as an inspiration, who likes to stay cheerful and happy all the time without any reason. According to him if you are happy for a reason you are not doing it right because your happiness ends when the reason goes away. Just like the grass is always greener on the other side and the second side of coin can never be seen, in a similar way there might have been many transient phases in the life of that individual that now he has trained himself to subjugate all that pain very well and accept life the way it is.

Or was it something else, was he actually happy? After having a long conversation with that individual, I realized just because he laughs a lot, doesn’t mean his life is easy. Just because he has a smile on his face, doesn’t mean something isn’t bothering him. Actually he chose not to dwell on the negatives, keeping head up and move on with his life. I came to know a lot more things, a lot of ideas about how to live freely, openly and whole-heartedly, what maturity is and most importantly how to stay happy and make others happy too. How to deal with the hardships in life and how to use the best two tools – cute smile and the meaningful silence in the most suitable ways.

Apologizing doesn’t always mean that you are wrong and the other person is right, it just means that you value your relationship more than your ego. That individual emphasized on the importance of a meaningful silence, which is better than loads of meaningless words. He emphasized on the need of staying quiet and dealing with the issues patiently rather than getting nervous and creating a mess out of them. Maturity lies in the fact of dealing crises/hardships with patience and having a full fledged plan to curb it instead of getting impatient and finally indulging into a deeper crises.

Maturity is when you accept people the way they are and when you understand that everyone is right in their own perspective, instead of trying to superimpose your opinion on them. When you are able to differentiate between ‘need’ and ‘wants’ and are able to let go off your wants, you can be called mature. Maturity is when you stop comparing yourself from others and when you stop trying to change others but rather focus on changing yourself. You are mature enough when you stop proving the world how intelligent you are, when you do not seek approval from others and when you are at peace with yourself.

While interacting with him, there was a point when he started discussing his personal life and came up with the instances that how having a good heart can put you in some fucked up situations or the really hard times. Presently, he strongly opposes being polite since according to him, being polite is so rare these days that it is often confused with flirting or being submissive. He also believed in the ideology that it is better to be arrogant with arrogant people , as accordingly this is the only language they respect, as they confound kindness with weakness. Apart from this the individual also compared human to an iron piece and stated that none can destroy iron, but its own rust can. Likewise none can destroy a person but his own mindset.

And then somehow in the middle of conversation came the topic of relationships, one of the most relevant topics in any teenager’s conversation. But here also he centered his focus on maturity and made a point that true maturity is when you are able to drop ‘expectations’ from a relationship and give it for the sake of giving and when you stop attaching yourself to the material things. At the same time, he made a statement that the parental love is incomparable and can never be ignored, with a gentle smile on his face.

The word ‘Love’, reminded him of the girl to whom he loved for 7+ years but couldn’t get her and as justification he said, “at some point you will realize that you have done so much for someone, that the next only possible step to do is to stop. Leave them alone. Walk away. It is not that you’re giving up and you shouldn’t try. It’s just that you have to draw a line between determination and desperation. What is truly yours, would eventually be yours and what is not, no matter how hard you try, will never be”.

By now, I was getting late and had to leave. I asked for his approval and at once he nodded, we shake hands  and I told him 'it was nice meeting you, Mr.Stranger', to which he replied "there are no strangers, they are just friends who never met."

TIMELINE

    1) INCOMPREHENSIBLE MISTAKES

        For few mistakes, we don't get punished not because there's no punishment for it but actually the guilt inside us is enough to give us a new death daily.

    2) INTER RELIGION LOVE STORIES

        At some point you realize that few people can stay in your hearts, but not in your lives.

    

    3) SWEET TRUTH

        *Sometimes, we can get a lot in our lives but not the everything.

        *And few are the bonds that don't need a title to describe its significance.

    4) UNFORGETTABLE MEMORIES

        Some people are so much precious that you get confused whether to keep them with you or let 

        them go.

    5) TRUE LOVE

        Few things can't be showcased but can only be felt.

    6) SEPARATION

        Sometimes all we need is strength to deal with the bitter truth and the fake happiness.

    7) PAINS IN LOVE

        A tired body and a retarded brain is much better than a broken heart.

  

    8) SELF EXPLORATION

        Although throughout our lives, change is the only constant but sometimes it is better to leave people than to change, because change isn't always correct.

    9) GROW UP PEOPLE

        Sometimes people tend to comment without actually knowing what all you have been going  through.

   10) FRIENDS

         And few people mean life to us, whose presence or absence makes the world of difference.

   11) HEALING YOURSELF

         I wish fake smile was actually the medicine to make up a broken soul or heart.

   12) TIME

         Time is something that runs way too fast, make sure you don't loose a grip over it.

   13) A KIND HEART

         There aren't any strangers, those are just friends you haven't met.

  

   14) INNER CONFLICTS, OUTER PEACE

         Thanks god for giving me the ability to forgive so easily but not to forget their mistakes ever.

         #justcancerianthings

         

   15) OPTIMISTIC

         Never underestimate yourself because the way you lead your life is actually an inspiration for  many.

       

LOVE BOREDOM :Revealing the secrets of true love

Yes,  many of the youngsters living in today's world, the civilised era and the modern society, doesn't believe in love at all and have almost replaced it with sex or time for fun. But is it the right path where the youth of our country is heading towards? After witnessing a number of relationships in the very young age, they have almost made the word love synonymous with boredom. And now most of the youngsters feel or consider relationships as relation shits.

Although while reading the blog it might look to you irrational on my part, yes a teenager speaking about all these things who might not know himself what love is. But after witnessing a number of real life examples and not the  reel life, I have gathered enough sense to write a thesis about it, but this isn't what you really need.

True Love isn't about the Public Display of Affections(PDA's) or Public Display of Fuckups(PDF's). It isn't either about the marriages taking between two individuals in the most luxurious ways. It isn't about spending a 15day honeymoon in London, Italy or Rome. Yes True Love isn't about flaunting at all. And most importantly it isn't about faking love or one night stands. Okay, but what true love is ??, a question definitely prevailing in your minds by now.

But do you really think that a nineteen year old boy can teach you what true love is or what all about it is , or even a 60 year old person can? Well, well, well my friends in that case you are taking it in a wrong direction because true love is something that can't be taught, it can only be felt, so accordingly everyone has their own definition of True Love.

As for me, the very first rule about true love is something far far away from showing off and being unreal. True Love is about loving one another without the need of physical pleasures. It is about showering love on one another, giving surprises, bringing smiles upon each other's face, respecting and supporting each other at every point of time and never leaving one another's side even in the toughest moments of life.

True Love isn't restricted to a particular caste, religion, race of a tribe. It has no boundaries. Money is something that matters but not as much as being together does. It is the trust and feelings of one another that holds two individuals together, who don't fear death and sacrifices, who can rely upon each other. It's about being childish, carefree and crazy with each other. It is all about being genuine, open minded and giving space to one another. Being yourself, being real and being truthful plays a vital role in any love story.

True Love is about accepting a person with all their flaws, weaknesses, likes/dislikes. It is about liking the interests of the person and hating the dislikes. And most importantly True Love is something that is always two sided, it can't be forced upon someone by means of betrayal (forceful acts), misuse of power or money. It is about supporting and loving one another unconditionally.

True Love never dies, it is just eternal. People die but their love stories doesn't . It is almost synonym with the true friendship, that it isn't about who came earlier in your lives, it's about who came and never left your side. And love marriages are about the two individuals from simple families marrying in most simple ways following all the rituals, traditions and taking the blessings from elders, without feeling the need to show off.

True Love is something which is over any other feeling in the world. It is an example of the purest and the most phenomenally beautiful bonds which has ever existed. But sadly 90% of the teenagers fail to understand what true love is and confuses them with the temporarily crushes that enter their lives, hook ups and link ups are often mistaken as true love because of which teenagers have to go through bad times, bear the consequences of breakups either by getting into depression or getting their trust over from true love.

So it's the high time, the youth, the teenagers, must realise what True Love is all about and doesn't relate it to crushes and link ups at all because temporary memories aren't supposed to fit in as a part of beautiful memories. So try getting know what True Love actually means to avoid the consequences and to lead a happy blissful life. Although it will take time to understand what all it is actually but once you get to know it, that would surely be a life changing moment and an unforgettable memory for you.

Revealing the secrets of True Friendship

Most of the people in this world have got friends who will pick them up when they fall, support them if they get distracted or deviated from their paths in life, but luckily we have got some friends who never let us fall. So this is something where I don't feel like mentioning the names of people because all those who have been a part of journey of my life will understand themselves.

As usual, the issues prevail in every other relationship and friendship is one of them and the misunderstandings arrives to check how strong the bond actually is. All those who came in your lives, lived under the name of friends, took your advantage in someway or the other, left one day unknowingly and never tried to reach back, depicts nothing but just a fake friendship is. And yes people out there, surprisingly the worst victims of this disease-'Fake Friendship' are the rich, who now aren't so well off due to some financial losses.That is one of the best times to check, who your true friends  actually are.

And on the other hand, we have got people who never leave our side,always stands with you in every good and bad situation, always there to help you out even in the worst times, motivates you to do your best, explains you like a teacher, plays the role of a guide, a philosopher, a parent, a sibling and never tell something that turns out to be demotivating for you in the long run. These are the ones who never distract you from the path of success, never allow you to get onto the wrong path in life. Yes people, these are the ones who we call our 'TRUE FRIENDS' and they are the ones who 'treat you like a family' - this is where the difference lies.

'True Friends' - Yes a badge, a degree that isn't so easy to earn, you have to work hard, actually really hard, friendship should be the  topmost priority, you should obey your duties and never fail an examination. Yes, people friendship is one of the most beautiful bonds and just like any other bond/relationship, there are a set of duties to fulfil in friendship as well. For all those who are or who have been a true friend to someone will understand about which duties I am talking about.

 And yes there's an examination as well, that is the need of a friend in the difficult times of life and the friend who plays a significant role at that moment is the one who we call a true friend. This is one of the most difficult examinations around the globe since it cannot be cleared just in a single attempt, you have to prove yourself in every other situation whenever the need arises. The levels of friendship are broadly classified as -> ordinary friends, above average friends, good friends, extraordinary friends, best friends, BFF and ultimately culminating upto 'lifelines'.

Although the word friends is almost synonymous with the word 'fun', but in reality the picture is altogether different. Although there's no harm in chilling out with friends, making fun of each other, doing random shitty stuff together, doing pranks on one another, making funny faces, making fun of people. But one must also realise the importance of the duties to be fulfilled, because this is one arena which differentiates you from an ordinary friend from a true friend. A true friend is someone who never hurts you by their words or actions, is always there to stand by you in every ups and downs in life.

True Maturity is understanding each other's point of views, giving one another a definite amount of space, not revealing each other's secrets, listening without interrupting are a set of few necessities that must be present in the bond called true friendship. Otherwise we might just see more and more classical examples of breaking friendship which we usually witness everyday in front of us or in our own lives.

Although it is a sweet bond, where the constraints like 'Thinking before speaking', aren't generally followed and believe me, it isn't even necessary to follow one, since friendship might come with few duties to fulfil but it can never come with boundations since friendship is one such relationship which is by choice and not by compulsion.

Many a times we see that due to one or the other reason, a misunderstanding is created which affects the beautiful bond between two individuals(friends) in numerous ways. And all being teenagers or people from high profiles, one most common scenario which comes into picture is 'EGO CLASHES'. Yes, people EGO is one such thing that is affecting us, it never allows us to admit our own mistakes and we always tend to think that other one is the culprit. We are the ones, who never feel like saying sorry and show attitude for no reason, and that is the point in time when we are heading towards a wrong direction. Just remember people, saying a sorry is never going to lower your self esteem instead it is going to increase love and respect for you in the hearts of the other one and also saves the bond from breaking.

Blaming others is not always the right thing to do, it isn't too late now, just pick up your phone and call all those with whom you aren't on talking terms. So let's keep our ego aside and make the first move. Let's make this world a better place to live for you and for me!!!

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The overbreezes of my heart,
starts on like the Ancient Mariner.
He the evil killed the bird,
And I the devil killed myself.
Not physically but mentally and emotionally
Just not for that silly girl
Who came to drive over my heart,
And strive all my life in pain.
But for that innocent lady,
who deserves to get my lifetime love
in the last moments of her life.
In exchange of the most precious moments,
that she gave me all her life.
She just not taught me how to stand and walk on my own feet,
but she also taught me how to withstand the adverse conditions of life.
I was a mere beginner in life,
before she stood by me and made me an extremediate.
I often misunderstood her,
but she never undermined herself.
The food she made was scrummy,
just like eating a cake so yummy.
She was always as sweet as honey to me,
and I was all the time cruel to her.
She always wanted to made me a good person in life,
but I always thought it as an interference in my life.
In her last days, she was totally quieten
And her body was weakened.
Her face was full of wrinkles.
Her energy decreased extensively,
And she could barely walk......
Once she was taken to hospital,
Days passed, weeks passed...
And she never came back..
Yes my grandmother never came back...

Note:- Value what you have today because once it's gone, it's gone... No powers can ever bring them back.

Friendly Gods : Another Extract from my life

There have always been a set of people apart from your family who have played a commendable part in your lives, who have set themselves faraway from the category of normal people, because of their deeds, their attitude towards you. They might be your relatives, friends, teachers, seniors, juniors, colleagues or just any random person but they must have played a significant part in your life at one point or the other.

In making you what you are today, in realising all your potentials, in making you an optimistic person, sensible human being and much more. Have always played a role of a guide, counsellor or a teacher in your lives. Just like we know from the very young age that God cannot be everywhere, so he created mothers but one cannot simply share everything with their mothers, so god did created few more people for you. Yes he created them and sent them as angels for you, people might call them by any name, but I like to call them as FRIENDLY GODS.

Yes, friendly gods, because for me they are like a combination of God and a friend. Just like a friend can be seen, you share problems with them but every time you can't rely on them to get a solution and  in case of God, he can't be seen but he has got the solution for almost all of our problems. In a similar way, these people can be seen and are the ones on whom you can rely upon every time, who are gonna support you majorily in every action you take or the path you choose. They help you out in every possible way and never stop motivating you for good.

Yes, I call them friendly gods as I had spent the moments of fun and happiness with them, just like I spent it with any other friend. And my friendly gods have always been standing with me in a tough journey called life. These are the special ones who have left a deep mark in my life, by playing remarkable roles in order to make me realise where my talent actually lies, they always believed in me with wholesome trust,showered love on me enormously, never left my side and enabled me to channelise myself in search of a much better version of me.

They have witnessed my best and worst times, happiest and saddest moments, but the moral support from their sides never ended and somewhere or the other it is their blessings and love that has enabled me to reach where I am today and where I would be tomorrow. In every difficult situation, these people were always there to help me out and every impossibility seems possible when people like them are around.

Apart from all this, sometimes moments arrive when they just yell at you, scold you or even make you feel embarrassed, but remember they do that for your good, in order to make you learn from your own mistakes just like parents do for their children. And their main motive is nothing else  apart from seeing you successful, contended and happy.

So, it would just be rude on your side, to overlook these people and not extend the vote of gratitude to them. So this post is dedicated to all those who have played a significant role in my life. So before summing up, I would just like to convey "A BIG THANK YOU,  for being there like always."... 

THOUGHTS: TOWARDS A DEEPER MEANING

Just a set of thoughts to enlighten your lives by means of few words because writing long posts was getting too mainstream and reading them becomes tiring sometimes.

1) PARENTAL LOVE   

Your  mom and dad love you for no reason, so you have got a reason to love them back.

2)DEDICATION

While some people were busy in making a built for someone whom they have never seen, I refrained myself from talking to her to make one.

3)MOTIVATION

Everyone is good at something, or the other, that might just not be your cup of tea. But that doesn't mean he/she do not deserve a chance.

4)BELIEVE IN YOURSELF

Follow your heart and listen to no one else, because no one can play your role better than yourselves. 

5)SACRIFICE

Just for the sake of happiness for those who hate me the most, I had to leave the ones whom I love the most.

6)STOP GETTING HARASSED AND SPEAK UP

Make sure the air you are intake is fresh oxygen and not the fart that comes from someone else.

7)DEPRESSION

I am remaining quite nowadays, that isn't because I wish so, its just because the circumstances reinforced me to do so.

8)CONFIDENCE PLAYS A KEY ROLE

Keep quiet and let your hardwork speak up for you.

9)TALENT

You have always got something, that can make them feel addicted to you.

10)NEVER UNDERESTIMATE YOURSELF 

Imperfections is always a part of beauty, so more the number of  imperfections you have, more beautiful you are.

11)LOVE

There is always someone who enters your life as a stranger and becomes an utmost priority, above everyone and everything else.

12)EXPRESSIVENESS 

While chatting with her, I gave her innumerable hints that she is the special one, she still didn't got that, is she the dumb one or is it me who isn't able to express feelings affectionately. 

13)FAKING SUCKS, ORIGINALITY ROCKS!!

Originality might be full of errors or imperfections but it is always better than faking around.

14)INEXPRESSIBLE PAINS

Sometimes, we are just short of words, to describe what all we have been going through.

15)HEARTLESS PEOPLE

It isn't about being arrogant, its just about playing with someone's feelings and emotions.

BELOW THE RED VEIL: Lets unveil the truth

Some people die about a thousand times before their death and shockingly here also the statistics say that the victims are majorly women and this feeling of dying before death, is most of the times due to 'RED VEIL', yes the one which symbolizes the auspiciousness of marriage in a women's life.

Although we are living in the 21st century and thankfully we have won against many predefined norms like the Sati movement or be it the dowry cases, and the education ratio of girls is to boys is also maintained quite fairly, but are women still able to live upto their dreams or is this red veil creating a hurdle in their path and is the reason for the shattering of their dreams.

Although being a part of the modern civilized society, many a times we see that women had to give up their jobs after marrying, just to raise children, do household chores, service to husband and in laws. And as we know everything has a price to pay, yes do u know there is actually a significant price a women is paying for her marriage, no no I am not talking about the father's money or leaving their own homes. But sadly the price is the ability to wish,to aspire, to aim ,to visualize, to be independent, to dream and to fly high.

Don't you think that actually they are the examples of people, who actually die at 25 but are buried at 75. Although living in a civilized era,women after marriage are provided with most of the luxuries and happiness, but don't you think somewhere or the other, they are still the mere puppets in the hands of in-laws. Although a married women is given a lot of importance, respect and honour in family, love is showered all over her, but still... don't you think somewhere or the other, they are tortured and harassed under the family's pressure. they might not feel or take it as a pressure, but don't you think that their lives just gets restricted to their children and families only. They can't take time out for themselves.

Although giving birth to children and bringing them up is an integral part of a women's life, but why all this at the cost of draining her own dreams. Doesn't it feel like stabbing ourselves with a knife. Raising up children, living for them, loving them, getting the love back, obviously gives an immense amount of happiness to a women and it can't even be compared to any other happiness in life, but why all this at the cost of her own dreams ?

It isn't that talking against marriages implies that I am against them, instead it is one of the most beautiful bond between two soulmates, until and unless the bond gets converted to a burden.And believe me for the people out there that stop marrying isn't even a way out, as getting married is one of the most amazing feeling in the world. Don't believe me, ask your parents.

Marriage is not only about sex life. It is the example of the purest forms of relationship between two individuals who turn out to be soulmates, who tie a knot to stay together forever and ever and gets entitled to stay together firm and determined in facing every good or bad situation for the rest of their lives. It is about giving each other a personal space and time, sharing feelings, helping one another and loving each other. And apart from all this planning is also one of the essentials of a successful married life.

Just after marriage, a girl leaves her house and enters a new house as a woman. She commences her married life, with hell loads of responsibilities on her shoulders, tries to spread gaity  and smile, with her ever brightening smile and good nature, makes special dishes for almost everyone in the family. So husbands and in-laws also gets a duty to cover, a role to play and yes that is to stand by her always and support her forever.

Just remember girls, a person who doesn't allow you to stand on your own feet, just don't let him stand by you.

KNOCK KNOCK: Why don't you show up ??

Just ask yourself have you got any talent to show off, which can enable you to earn money and get fame, then why not show it to the world? Why are you scared of getting on the stage and what are you afraid of, comments from people, what will they think of you and will be making fun of you?, then my friend in that case its the high time you should "STOP OVERTHINKING & START LIVING",before that talent gets ruined.

You have got a passion which you like to change into a profession, then for what are you still sitting and thinking about? Don't care about the world, because people who are against the dream path in life don't deserve anything except the standing ovation of your middle finger.. Don't listen to anyone else and just follow your heart because once a day will come in your lifetime when you will look back or either look at someone and say, 'I wished I could be him/her', but by then the time had gone and yes the time wasted never comes back even for the richest and the fittest.

So, its high time,you must follow what your heart says because no one can play your role better than yourself and why to put yourself in someone else's shoe, when you have got your own abilities that might just enable you to buy a couple of pairs along with the standard bread and butter. Live for yourself, because if someone stops you from doing what you wish, it apparently may be because it isn't their cup of tea or they might have failed in doing so, but that doesn't mean it applies to you as well, does it?

People generally after growing up prospect about their lives and admire, 'I could be this or that', but that is the time when they have lost the will,power,futility,ability and dedication to make that dream come true. All they have now is the fragility in their bones and the ability to get tired very soon by doing almost nothing. And then they are left with no other option except to blame others, that  it is because of them we are like this today or to blame the circumstances that might have prevailed in their lives at an earlier stage, but the result is that they now cant change themselves into what they wanted to be.

But we are living on different terms of life, we are young,we are youth,we have the ability to do better for ourselves and for the world around, People expect from us and we are the ones who have to take up the responsibility of making the world a little more developed,a little more sensible, knowledgeable and a little more practical. And if we don't start working on it today, then my friend it would be really unfair to blame others or the circumstances in the older phase of our lives.

It isn't like that I am being cruel, insensitive or disobeying elderly, instead I am the one whose heart is filled with love, care and respect for them, all I am trying is to chase against the notion of the society that most of the times, remain unchallenged "Babies are born, follow the footsteps of others, and at the dead bed think about a thousand more things/ideas ", but that isn't the right state or frame of time to think so. People generally never try to think out of the box and keeps and keeps on following the path designed for them by someone else, but its the high time now you must ask yourselves and try to find out where do you excel and where you want to carry forward your life to?

At last , all I need to ask is, Will you show up now? Will you put your first step forward now towards chasing your own dreams instead of following the footsteps of others ? 

AN EXTRACT FROM MY LIFE

This wasn't the first time, when I thought of writing, the situation arose a many times in my life, whenever i used to feel alone, depressed or sad, everytime i felt like writing but somehow or the other i used to get back the happiness in my life due to one or the other reason. But this time it was something different, the sadness which prevailed in me was changing the circumstances for me, it was making me feel alone, weak and depressed.


Somewhere deep down inside me, I had already quitted and I knew I can't continue to live like this without friends and happiness, and most importantly love in my life. While I was thinking of all this, my eyes fell upon the side table of my room which had a pen and notebook over the top and then i decided to write, yes to write about all the cases, changes and circumstances that took place during 1st semester of my college life.


Yes, many of us thinkwhat the hell a time frame of 6 months can do in anyone's life, I was of the very same mentality as well, unless and until few drastic changes occured in my life. The circumstances that I confronted made it difficult for me to survive in such a place for 6 months(or a semester) and i began to think how am i going to spend four more years of my graduation in a place like this.


Initially everything used to work fine, college life was going and flowing as a college life should. New people, new friends, new places and a whole new level of fun, as we say the college life actually began. And with that smooth college life comes love in most of the cases and so was the scenario that happened with me, I was on the verge of my very first relationship. The bond between her and me was beautifully growing up.Every moment seemed like to be a fairy tale, but then something happened that reinforced to change my smooth going life and yes it was the low graded mentality of few teachers who mistook the childishness in me to the rascality/disobedience. MY whole mistake was that I was trying to create a fun environment in class and I didn't realised when that prank changed into hurting someone's emotions. Yes that was the mistake I did, but I was punished and blamed as if I committed a crime, (PEOPLE NEED TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN CRIME AND MISTAKE.) and all the day I thought did I actually deserved that?


And,And,And...It was just the beginning,As goes by the saying ,"Let the college life begin, people will show their true colours." And this was something that I witnessed as well, two of my besties took my girl away, created misunderstandings, never tried to solve issues and left me all alone and miserable. The one who used to call me brother, took my girl away and the group which I created initially never bothered to ask me again and left me all alone.


But as we know, when destiny closes one door, it opens another, so was the change that came in my life and I got new guy friends and I began roaming with them, had new level of fun, life was full of excitement once again and it seemed that life was getting back on track. But as we know, that problems don't go back so easily if it has stricked your door. And then because of that group which left me long back, issues came again in my presesnt life. I used to believe in the philosophy that 'Prevention is better than cure.',so I refrained myself to speak about those issues with them and my guy friends(new group). And I never came to know about how that prevention turned into misunderstanding and my new friends also left me all alone.

Yes, this was the most depressed situation of my life, I have ever been through. I was already feeling miserable of the fact that a teacher pointed on my character and my upbringing for no reason, my group ditched me, my brother took my girl away and now these guy friends also left me all alone. All these changes in my life were making me weak and affecting me mentally and emotionally. I was loosing upon my mental stability and I was getting depressed day by day. The feeling of death often arose in me. And this was not just the end, if something fishy happened in their lives, those people used to think and blame me as I was the culprit. They made fun of me and made me feel embarrassed in every possible way they could.

Then I realised about the balance, yes the rational balance created by God that elders used to tell about, that "You will cry/tear apart for equal time for which you have smiled/laughed." And what next, I was a boy with weak heart, actually very weak. So I started putting up a plastic smile on my face to cover all the unhappiness, sadness and depression in me. But the fake smile or happiness doesn't prevail for long or it is not enough to entertain people around.


Might be now was the time, when God thought of me with consideration and yes God did something fantastic this time, he sent a jewel for me, yes an angel in the mask of my best friend forever who actually served the purpose of an angel or a magician in my life, he turned all my unhappiness into happiness, sorrows into joys. With his arrival, I regained the reason of  happiness in my life. Although our choices aren't a much like, he's actually reverse of me, a year younger to me, likes to stay home and I love to roam everywhere. He's a little too nerdy and I stay away from books. He likes to stay reserved and I am open to all, but all I can say is that I LOVE YOU BROTHER and I am happy just because you are with me.

Thanks for being there always. This college life is just incomplete and impossible without you. <3